Different Expectations?

Maria Reyes

Whenever a couple is expecting a baby, they always want the best for their child. They want them to be happy and successful, regardless if it’s a boy or a girl. However, there has been many studies that show that parents, unintentionally, hold different expectations for their children based on if they are boys or girls. They teach ladies to be kind-hearted and smart, and men to be tough and hardworking. There should not be gender stereotypes because everyone deserves to be treated and be looked at equally .

Of course, it’s okay for a lady to cry when she’s hurt, but how come it’s never okay for a gentleman to do the same? How many times have we heard parents tell a boy “Quit being such a girl?” or “ Only girls cry.” They always remind boys that they should be the breadwinners in the house and should never show weakness or pain. On the other hand, girls are always expected to have this gender stereotypical body. Girls should always be organized and clean. However, they can’t ever act too vigour because ladies are suppose to be “passive” and “submissive”.

People might argue that gender stereotypes are good for people because it motivates women to do more than what’s expected from society. That they are pushed to break those gender stereotypes set for them. However, that is incorrect because gender stereotypes don’t motivate women to do more. It only brings them down because they are they feel oppressed and belittled .  This in fact, can ever cause social issues like radical feminism. Women should never have to prove society that they are equal to men.

Nevertheless, others might state that men have proven to be stronger than women, and therefore, they should take the most difficult role in society. I would have to strongly disagree with that statement. Society only thinks that men are stronger and more suitable for

harder work because women have never been able to demonstrate otherwise. Women are always put in this invisible shell in where they can’t freely show their capabilities.

Others might say that parents act this way towards their children because it’s a cultural thing that they have been living through and seeing  their entire life. However, even though they have been through that, it doesn’t necessarily mean that their children should have to go through the same thing. To add on, there are studies that show how many children (especially teens) go through a lot of pressure trying to fulfill these stereotypical demands. This generation should be able to express freely how they feel and do what they wish to do without feeling pressured to act or be a  certain way.